3. Speak POSITIVELY
Not only should you think positive thoughts – you should also speak positive words. Lift people up – don't tear them down. xcvvcxcxvxcvxvxcv
Complaining is a habit – it's a bad habit. Habits are only broken by replacing them with something else. Take out the complaining and replace it with positive speaking. The Bible tells us in Ephesians:
"No foul language is to come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear." Ephesians 4:29
The Bible says we're going to give an account of every careless word that we speak. Follow along with me as I read from Matthew chapter twelve:
"I tell you that on the day of judgment people will have to account for every careless word they speak." Matthew 12:36
I personally believe that we will have to give account for every word we have spoken whether it was a careless word or not - whether it was intentional or non-intentional.
Paul is saying – don't let any junk come out of your mouths but only that which helps people with their needs – that benefits them. We have all heard – "If you can't say something good, don't say anything at all." Even though it is not a Biblical saying – it is a wise saying to live by. Replace your criticisms and complaints with compliments. Be positive in your speaking.
4. Take Responsibility For Your Own LIFE
Many times complaining is just an attempt to blame other people for the problem. If I have brought the problem on myself – I need to take responsibility for it. I don't need to complain or blame others for the problems that I got myself into. I'm the cause of it – I need to take responsibility for it. This practice goes back a long way. Do you remember the fall of Adam and Eve? After Adam ate the fruit – do you remember what he did? He blamed Eve for giving him the fruit. Then he blamed God for creating the woman. It is easy to blame others for our own mistakes. In Proverbs nineteen the Bible says:
"People ruin their lives by their own stupidity, so why does God always get blamed?" Proverbs 19:3
Adam blamed God for the mistake he made – we blame God for our mistakes sometimes too. All of our actions have consequences. If I drop the ball do I need to complain when it bounces back? You know the Bible says: "Whatever a man sows he will also reap." Galatians 6:7b
When I bring problems into my life, I have no legitimate right to complain about it. You are free to do whatever you want in your life – sometimes we make wise choices – sometimes we make stupid choices – but whatever the choices we make – we need to take responsibility for them. The consequences will follow.
Accept responsibility for your own life and the choices that you make. The changes that are going to take place are because of the decisions you choose.
There are three kinds of people in life: accusers, excusers, and choosers.
Accusers are always going around saying "It's your fault." When Adam sinned he blamed his wife and then blamed God. He was an accuser.
Excusers say "I'm a product of my environment. It's not really my fault."
The people that are really successful in life are neither accusers nor excusers – they are choosers. They accept responsibility for their own decisions. When they reap what they sow they accept it and move ahead.
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